NEW TASKS AND HABITS: HOW TO COMBINE THE NEEDS OF THE MOTHER AND HER CHILD
Being a mother is one of the greatest joys life has to offer. It is one of those moments that changes a person's future prospects by adding a little piece to their family. The overall view changes and you begin to feel a love so strong that it often overrides your love for yourself. Mothers sometimes forget their own needs and focus on those of their children.
Taking time for yourself, to recharge and regenerate is not a selfish act but an act of love towards your own needs and towards the child who will receive the patience and understanding he or she needs. The fact of feeling good and fulfilled will also allow you to build a serene environment where you can experience every moment of your child's growth without being nervous, but rather, with extreme joy. How, then, to remember your own needs as a woman and at the same time find a balance with those of your child?
Often what the mother wants does not correspond to the child's wishes, in fact they are diametrically opposed needs. The mother would like silence, order and cleanliness while the child prefers noise, mess and why not, even some mud stains on the freshly cleaned floor.
The first secret is definitely cooperation within the family. The father is just as important as the mother, so sharing tasks is crucial. Grandparents, aunts, uncles or friends can also be asked for support if they are able.
The second secret is to listen to each other, especially in the first periods of sleepless nights and feeding at all hours. At the beginning you may not be used to certain schedules, so you need to listen to yourself in order to understand your own moods and emotions so that you can pass on only positive feelings to your child or family. This behaviour may appear to be selfish, but in reality it only means wanting your own good and that of your child and building relationships on a healthy basis.
The last secret is to adapt. Obviously, it will mean changing your habits, but every change involves new things and being able to welcome them with open arms is one of the greatest achievements. During the first few months, the mother will certainly have to take a few extra steps towards the child, but as the years go by, they too will be able to meet the mother's needs and establish a healthy balance.
Patience is therefore the key word in the relationship between mother and child. Nervousness, shouting and scolding are not always effective, as children are much more likely to do something if asked nicely and if it is for the sake of the mother. If you want your child to tidy up the room, just ask him or her politely if he or she can put his or her toys away, giving reasons, for example, that mum is tired because she has just tidied the house. It may be difficult for them to understand the first time, but as time goes by, they will understand and respect this type of communication.
Being a mother is a great responsibility, but it is also one of the strongest emotions one can experience. The important thing is always to respect yourself and others in order not to demand the impossible. A mother's role is also to educate her child by teaching them manners, respect and love, and there is no better way to teach them these values than to make them the basis of every choice and behaviour every day.