Getting ready for the first day at nursery school
September is a month of big changes for parents of 3 year olds: because September is the month when they start nursery school!
This is a very important stage in a child's life because not only is it yet another step towards autonomy and socialization, but also the very first time a child is truly separated from his or her family. What can we do to make things as easy as possible for both children and parents?
Before the big day you will most certainly feel anxious and emotional, asking yourself questions like “How is he going to manage without Mom”? Will his teachers understand what he needs? ... " This is quite normal. But try to stay cheery and confident - remember that children pick up on your feelings of apprehension.
Try to explain to your child what to expect: tell him that he will make lots of new friends at nursery school and learn lots of new things. But don’t raise his expectations too high, otherwise he will be disappointed!
If possible, come back from your holidays a few days before nursery school starts. That way your child will have time to settle down before he faces yet another change.
So how do you cope with the first day at nursery school? Be sure to take him to nursery school yourself; this will make him feel more confident and show him how proud you are of him.
Let him bring his favourite toy if he wants it: having something he loves and knows will make him feel more secure.
The chances are, your child won't be prepared for you to just drop him off and leave on the first day, so be prepared to hang around until he's settled.
Saying goodbye is the most difficult moment, even if your child doesn’t cry. If he does cry, try to calm him down gently but firmly. It’s quite normal, above all if he isn’t used to being away from you and left with other people. If your child cries and won't let you leave, try not to cry, smile and tell him that he’s going to have lots of fun.
When it’s time to go home, try to be on time! Your child would be distraught not to see you among the other parents.
When you get home ask him what he did at school, but don’t insist if he doesn’t want to tell you. Some children may not want to talk about their day, above all because the first few days may be a little confusing for them.
Try to keep in mind our advice to start off on the right foot. Happy nursery school to all your children!